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Home / Personal Development Articles / Regal Discernment: Can you witness your feminine power without flinching?

By Amna Mazin

Regal Discernment: Can you witness your feminine power without flinching?

This part of me that has been conditioned to flinch at power—especially my own— mirrored something deeper I’ve been learning…

The inner tension that surfaces when a woman begins to honor her biological and energetic wiring for discernment—the ability to access aligned power, clear seeing, and unapologetic truth.

It is the soft authority of the queen within, whispering: I see what no longer serves, and I choose differently.

When we are tapped into this power, our ability to detect misalignment heightens. Our tolerance for falsehoods drops. 

We’re not being dramatic—we’re discerning. 

We’re not too much—we’re just finally honest.

Like the python, this part of us doesn’t perform or please. It doesn’t flinch from truth. It simply knows. It asks us to witness our own power without flinching.

My coach and mentor, Barbara Huson said it best:

A powerful woman is someone who knows who she is, knows what she wants, and expresses that in the world unapologetically.

Which brings us to your fourth feminine superpower: regal discernment.

Regal Discernment

Here’s how to use this feminine superpower.

POWER FACT

According to Alisa Vitti, functional nutritionist and author of In the Flo, women are biologically wired for moments of deep evaluation—times when the brain naturally prioritizes discernment and detail orientation, making it easier to see what is and isn’t working.

POWER AFFIRMATION

“My clarity is not cruelty—it is sacred self-respect.”

POWER BLOCKERS

When power blockers are running the show, you feel: 

Resentful. Snappy. Withdrawn.

Sound familiar? These are subtle alerts that you’re out of alignment and disconnected from your inner queen.

You’re blocking your alignment by:

  • Resisting slowing down
  • Ignoring emotional or physical cues
  • Staying in “do-it-all” mode
  • People-pleasing out of guilt
  • Taking on too much

POWER ENHANCERS

When you’re aligned with this superpower, you feel: grounded, certain, and focused.

Do more of these to stay connected:

  • Practice the Pause:
    Discernment needs space. Create stillness before making decisions.
  • Choose Discomfort Over Resentment:
    It’s not just about people-pleasing—it’s about honoring your truth, even when it’s uncomfortable. Discomfort now prevents self-betrayal later.
  • Let Your Body Vote::
    Tune in—tightness, tension, or lightness will often speak before your words do.
  • Close Emotional and Mental Loops:
    Tie up what’s incomplete. Discernment thrives in clarity, not chaos.

 

POWER BOUNDARIES

Protect this superpower by protecting your calendar:

  • Finish Before You Begin: Complete what’s open before starting something new.
  • Work: Block time to finish, edit, and tie up loose ends. Reduce unnecessary meetings.
  • Non-Work: Say no to draining or unclear plans. Prioritize rest and reflection.
  • Keep What’s Aligned: Regularly review your calendar and commitments. Let go of what no longer fits who you’re becoming.

 

POWER RITUAL
Throne Work

Step 1: Ask

Where am I identifying with fear when I could choose power?

Where am I shrinking instead of seeing clearly?

Step 2: Choose Like a Queen
Ask: What would the queen in me choose—without fear, without apology?

Let the answer come. 

Act on it today.

Published on: April 15, 2023 • Updated on: April 15, 2025 • Women's Empowerment

Amna Mazin

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