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Welcome back to this short series on How to Win Friends + Influence People by Dale Carnegie.
So far, we’ve gone over the following big ideas from the book:
Here’s what we’ll be going over today…
The writer and philosopher Elbert Hubbard was known for stirring people up with his writing—arousing fierce resentment from some readers as a result.
But he was also a master of “winning friends and influencing people,” and frequently turned his enemies into friends.
An irritated reader once wrote to Hubbard, expressing his disagreement with one of his articles and ending his letter by calling Hubbard some nasty things…
Hubbard, being an expert at handling others with elegance, responded to the reader’s letter like this:
“Come to think it over, I don’t entirely agree with it myself. Not everything I wrote yesterday appeals to me today. I am glad to learn what you think on the subject.
The next time you are in the neighborhood you must visit us and we’ll get this subject threshed out for all time.
So here is a handclasp over the miles, and I am, —yours sincerely, Elbert Hubbard””
WOW… Can you say, class act?
Whenever you feel the need to tell someone something they may not necessarily agree with, make an effort to include the following statement before or after making your point:
“I could be wrong about this, but if my memory serves me right…”
☝️ Using a statement like that will dramatically boost your ability to find common ground + influence others.
Especially when you’re communicating with someone who may disagree with you.
And if all else fails, just keep this quote from Carnegie in mind:
“By fighting you never get enough, but by yielding you get more than you expected.”
LOVE that.
See you in the next lesson,
—Dean
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